Grudges and negative feelings lead to a long lonely road.

One thing you can be certain of in life is that people are going to do things to either disappoint, anger or offend you. We live in a world that is full of many different people with different points of views and very different experiences. To hope that you will go through this life without either being hurt or hurting others is unreasonable so it is imperative that we learn how to forgive and how to ask to be forgiven for our own missteps or shortsightedness.

When people offend or hurt you it is easy to let hard feelings creep into your life and allow negativity to over ride your ability to look at the situation with fairness and a proper perspective. When negative feelings fill your heart it is important to take a moment and reflect on the situation before you respond to avoid saying something that you may later forget. Some of the questions you need to consider include: Is it possible that they really see things the way they are conveying them? How important is this person to me, should I kill the relationship or do I need to work through the issue? Have I hurt this person in a way that might cause them to strike out at me? Is it possible that they do not intend the remark to be hurtful?

If the concern is with someone that you love or need to continue your relationship then it is imperative that you act. Too often we decide to just let it go and move on, unfortunately this plan will only allow resentment and anger to build over time until emotions finally win over and relationships are damaged further. It is far better to sit down with the person and explain how you feel about the situation so you can talk through the problem and truly put the problem behind you.

Remember that your friends and family are the most important things you will ever gain in this life. Don't allow silly misunderstandings and immature frustrations ruin your most cherished relationships.

Love,

Dad

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